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10 ways to feel more confident speaking now

It's hard to feel confident speaking another language like Spanish, English, or Italian. Get 10 tips for feeling more confident today.

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Confidence in speaking another language is hard-won for many of us.

There are many reasons why it can be hard to feel confident speaking another language like Spanish, English, or Italian.

Here are some of the most common ones you may have experienced.

Fear of making mistakes. This is probably the most common fear, and it's completely understandable.

When you're not fluent in a language, you're constantly worried about saying the wrong thing or making a grammatical error. This can be paralyzing and make it difficult to speak up at all.

Fear of being judged. We all want to be accepted and understood, and this is especially true when we're speaking another language.

You may worry that people will judge you for your mistakes or that they'll think you're not too bright.

This fear can make us self-conscious and hesitant to speak.

Lack of confidence in your own abilities. If you don't feel confident in your ability to speak another language, it's going to be hard to feel confident when you do speak.

This can be due to a lack of practice, a lack of vocabulary, or simply a lack of belief in yourself.

The pressure to be perfect. When you're speaking another language, you may feel the pressure to be perfect.

You want to sound like a native speaker, and you don't want to make any mistakes.

This pressure can be overwhelming and make it difficult to relax and enjoy the conversation.

Many of my students have the same fears about speaking Spanish, English, or Italian.

Here are some tips I share with my students to alleviate the pressure they put on themselves.

1. Start small. Don't try to do too much too soon. Start by speaking in simple sentences and gradually work your way up to more complex conversations.

It can help you to feel more confident in your ability to speak the language. And it can help you to build a solid foundation for further learning.

2. Practice conversations in your head first. When you practice in your head, you can think about what you want to say and how you want to say it.

This can help you to feel more confident and prepared when the conversation actually happens.

3. Search out people who make you feel good. When you are around people who are supportive and encouraging, it can help you to feel more confident in your language skills.

This can make it easier to speak up and practice your language skills. It's also a lot easier to talk with someone who makes an effort to speak clearly.

If you're with someone who speaks too quickly and isn't interested in slowing down so you understand, then you're going to either leave the conversation completely confused or you're going to feel dejected.

Look for speakers who know to slow down their speaking and enunciate their words clearly. That will make you feel more confident speaking with them at greater length.

4. Ask a lot of questions when you don't understand. When you ask questions, you are showing that you are interested in learning the language and that you are willing to put in the effort.

This can help you to build relationships with native speakers and to learn more about their culture.

It also helps you to avoid misunderstandings. It's better to ask a question than to assume that you understand.

This can help you to ensure that you are communicating effectively.

5. Actively listen instead of focusing only on replying. When you're speaking a foreign language, the most important thing is to be understood.

Don't worry about making every sentence grammatically correct. Just focus on getting your point across.

6. Accept that you will definitely make mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes when they're learning a new language. Even native speakers make mistakes speaking their language.

In fact, how many mistakes did you make today speaking your native language today? It happens more than you realize.

The important thing is to not let your mistakes discourage you. Just keep practicing and you'll eventually get better.

7. Get curious when you need more info. When you are curious, you are more likely to ask questions and seek out new information.

This can help you to learn new things and to expand your knowledge.

And when you're curious about something, you are more likely to pay attention and learn more about it.

This can help you to improve your understanding of the language and to become more fluent.

When you learn a new language, you are also learning about the culture of the people who speak that language.

By being curious about the language and culture, you can learn more about the world and about different cultures.

8. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there, flaws and all. When you are not afraid to speak to people in their native language, it can help you to connect with them on a deeper level.

This can lead to friendships, business opportunities, and other positive experiences.

9. Practice regularly. The more you practice, the more confident you'll become.

Try to find opportunities to speak the language every day, even if it's just for a few minutes.

10. Find a supportive community. Surrounding yourself with people who are supportive of your language-learning journey can make a big difference.

Find a language partner, join a language class, or find an online community where you can practice speaking with other learners.

With time and practice, you can overcome the fear of speaking another language and become more confident in your abilities.

Just remember to be patient with yourself and don't give up.


Jackie Amidon Donaldson helps women feel confident speaking Spanish, English, and Italian like a native in 90 days or less. She loves helping them achieve their goals by setting up their action plan for success, showing them the tools they need, and supporting them each step of the way. Jackie's the owner and language coach of Amidon Studios and has worked with more than 1000 women around the world.


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